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Panetta: End of gay ban is historic for military

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Today, “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell is Done.”


It’s been 40 years since I  completed my tour of duty as an U.S. Air Force pilot in Vietnam, and finally began being able to live an open life, after 5 years of secrecy, isolation and loneliness.

So I celebrate today with all Americans that today our country is one step closer to living up to its founding values of

“liberty and justice for all.”

To Jack, with great admiration and affection, deep gratitude and grief.

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What I admire about Jack  is his ability to throw himself whole-hearted, unreservedly, into the fray of public discourse.
I so admire his passion and courage…his obviously deep love for his fellow humans.
Heart-felt thanks, Jack. You will be sorely missed, and those of us you inspired will carry on your vision and your work!
Jack’s final message:

“Canada is a great country, one of the hopes of the world. We can be a better one – a country of greater equality, justice, and opportunity. We can build a prosperous economy and a society that shares its benefits more fairly. We can look after our seniors. We can offer better futures for our children. We can do our part to save the world’s environment. We can restore our good name in the world. We can do all of these things because we finally have a party system at the national level where there are real choices; where your vote matters; where working for change can actually bring about change. In the months and years to come…we can be a better, fairer, more equal country by working together. Don’t let them tell you it can’t be done.

My friends, love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. And we’ll change the world.”

John Gilbert “Jack” Layton

July 18, 1950 – August 22, 2011

Vancouver Pride 2011

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The clouds parted just as the Dykes on Bikes roared down Robson!

Even after nearly 40 years of Pride Parades, I still get choked up at the site of all of us out strutting our stuff, celebrating the diversity of our sex/love lives.

Vancouver is a Queer-friendly City!Other personal highlights:

  • Large contingents of the Vancouver Police and Fire Department being out and proud in their uniforms and vehicles: a dramatic contrast from the  SF parades in the early 70s, when the SF police would grudgingly guard the parade route, barely concealing their animosity. Now a new generation of law enforcement folks are happily marching with us in solidarity.
  • The same with our national icon, the RCMP, in their traditional red surge.
  • All the float affirming  human rights in many forms.
  • Realizing most of the people marching had not yet been born when I experienced my first Pride in SF in 1972.
I keep being amazed, delighted, and deeply grateful that the times really are a’changin’.

I offer a deep bow of gratitude to Baba Ram Dass on his 80th birthday today.

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He has been one of my inspirations since 1973, when my dear friend Eric gave me “Be Here Now“. Despite his stroke a few years back, he is still offering his soulful presence online. Namaste, Babaji!

I love this photo of him [on the right] with his then-mentor Bhagavan Das, who led RD to find his guru,  Neem Karoli Baba in the 1960s.

What is “21st Century Masculinity” anyway?

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“what our planet needs now”

What kind of men does the planet need now?

“Man must love man, or war is forever.”— James Broughton


  • Men evolved in tribes to compete and be strong…to protect our tribe…to compete for sex and survival.
  • Fear is still often present between men…a residual, primal fear of competition and/or sexual predation (often clothed in anger or being super-cool) .
  • Now that our species is nearly 7 billion on a small planet, competition and conquest MUST be replaced with cooperation and building trust.It’s no longer “us” versus “them”.
  • It’s all US.In doing the work of Manology – Men’s Work – we ask: what about sexual energy and attraction? If I open up and let down my guard, will I be seen as sexually available or making an advance?  An open heart is not the same as an open groin. It is possible to be open to brotherhood AND have clear boundaries.

“True courage is the product of tenderness. It arises when we let the world touch our heart, our heart that is so beautiful and so bare. We are ready to open ourselves up, with no resistance or timidity, and truly face the world. We are ready to share our heart with others.” Chogyam Trungpa

How can we learn to lay down our arms as competitors and open our arms to embrace our brothers, maintaining our sense of self and our masculinity?

Join us to explore brotherhood at Manology ~

Please share this PDF: Manology-Brotherhood-1010

Beyond “Masculine”/”Feminine”: Expanding our understanding of “gender”

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The media have taken notice: Teens are being bullied and committing suicide because they do not fit our culture’s narrow, binary definitions of  “masculine” and “feminine”.

This oppression, which has been going on for eons,  hurts us all and limits  our ability to embody and express our full humanity, which is not   “either/or”.

We are all BOTH masculine AND feminine, regardless of what kind of plumbing we have.

Here are two authors whose writing expands beyond the binary:

1] Genia Pauli Haddon has written a brilliant essay enlarging the view of gender: Haddon-graphic

Her book is listed here:

2] Charles Eisenstein has drawn on Haddon to articulate a new view of human evolution emphasizing the ascent of the Yang Feminine and Yin Masculine: